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The Highest Value
Wednesday, April 23, 2014 2:13 pm Email this article
What is men’s greatest value? What do they value above all else? The answer is independence, i.e. the fact or the illusion that they control something external to themselves. Men will give up everything else to preserve this. When a wife or a government steps on their sense of control, men bite back.
What is women’s number #1 value? Connectedness–to family, friends, teachers, place and tradition. Women will give up everything to keep these connections. If a husband steps on his wife’s sense of connection to friends or family, he is in trouble.
Hence, most material progress comes from men. Most stability comes from women. I bet the value system is hard-wired in the brain, preserving the species.
The difference in values explains why men are so hard--for me--to teach, and why the teaching does not “stick”. The only way to succeed with men is to become their friend, to get on their level. Top-down teaching does not work for them.
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