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The One Thing Men Sacrifice For
Wednesday, August 29, 2012 10:13 am Email this article
My long experience with teaching people how to lose weight has given me some insight into people. I have identified the one thing most important to men. They will sacrifice everything for it. Independence. They will say stupid things in public, OVEREAT in front of everyone, make bad jokes and be (quietly) sorry for it later. Men turn down good offers, refuse good advice and fail to read instructions, ALL to show they are independent.
This tendency has been wired in by evolution. Men are programmed to seek the alpha, dominant position. In a pride of lions, the alpha male gets to eat first, gets more meat and has more sex. Alpha animals live longer. As Mel Brooks said in The History of the World Part 2, "It's nice to be the king."
It isn't always males who are alpha. In some species and in some human groups, there is the phenomenon of the alpha female. The psychology is the same.
The alpha quality is the chief reason men and alpha-women do not do as well in my weight loss program, on average, as beta (?) women do. It's why intelligent men sit there hearing nothing I say, waiting only for their chance to speak, to say something irrelevant. Honest to god, men pay to SAY stuff to me, or better yet, to argue. They don't listen. They do not acknowledge expertise in other men.
What is true in my office is true in Congress as well.
Now, what is the one thing for which women will sacrifice all else? I give women a chance to answer this question (I would not presume), and being more insightful, they come up with words such as: connectedness, socialization, family. Exactly so. That, too, is wired in by evolution. In nature the more connected women got more meat, had more children and lived longer.
What can you do about this, men? Although evolution wires in tendencies, YOU, a rational being, have the CAPABILITY to alter your behavior on the basis of thinking. And in my office, you get the OPPORTUNITY as well. Don't miss the chance.
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